Way too broad a question. The simple answer that you have already got from a few non iron shooters is in general right. Thinner is better, but there are a bunch of varriables that you need to address first.
1. What is your natural focal length?
2. what is the sight radius on your rifle. Ie M4 clone, 20" A2 with regular sights, 18" barrel with extended sights..etc.
3. conditions where you usually shoot ( out west dry and light, back east in the trees and dark)....etc.
4.what is the size of the target you are trying to hit WAY out there. Flash target at 400, LaRue at 500, full size IPSC plate at 600?
5. What kind of sights are you using?
Now the easy part, all I do is take stock G.I. sights and chuck them up in a drill and take a file and file them down as the drill spins. Keep the file flat to the sight and you can make them any size you want. IN GENERAL a .050 sight width is a good starting point, but on an M4 it will still look huge. I run a .040 on my practice rifle and on my match rifle it is .036...BUT that is an extended sight radius rifle. Let me know the answers to those questions above and I can give you a good ball park to start in, but if the front sight sits at length that your eye's natural focal point doesn't like you have to go BIG
Take a tape measure and your wife or girlfriend hold the dumb end at your eye and have them hold something around .050 wide out infront of your eye. Pull the tape out and see where that little thing looks the very sharpest with QUICK GLANCES not stareing at it and this will = natural eye focus length.