It's Been A Tough Few Weeks For Me Fellas

[CECannonJr]

I truly feel for you as I have been there. You've made it past the hardest part in my opinion, getting willing to give him to God. We as humans tend to be selfish when this time comes around. My dad had an aneurism in his abdomen and only lasted 8 days in the ICU. I wasn't with him when he died and it hurt. You wouldn't believe all the "I wish I had done this or that" moments I've had since. He passed away on December 3rd, 1980 at 61 years old. I was 22. You have a very precious memory to talk about even if it's with yourself, and you will. I lost my brother February 6th, 1991. Again, I arrived afterward. I was blessed to be with my mother when she passed away on October 19, 2007. She had been just barely hanging on for a couple of days and her nurse told me that she might be waiting for me to tell her it was OK to go. That was the hardest thing I ever done, but I finally got willing to let her go and I told her. She hung on a few more hours and all of a sudden the heart monitor started slowing down and she left. It was very peaceful. I'm the last man standing of my family and it still gets lonely sometimes. That's when I have to open up the chest of memories in my mind and take some out and look at them for a while and put them back until next time. They say time heals all wounds. The only thing they can't tell you is how much time it will take. But just like me you have the rest of your life to heal if it takes it. I truly wish you only the best my friend.

Thank-you very much for that heartfelt response. I wish you peace, comfort, and all the best too.

 

[Blackbeard]

I'm sorry to learn about the passing of your father and the way you feel right now.

I hope and trust that you will find your way - no, it will never be the same. It's okay to take time, mourn, and feel lost, and my heart aches for you as you go through this pain.

I often look at this clip from a movie (if you can get past the actor's politics), and it brings me a little comfort. I hope it helps - but more importantly, know everyone here is thinking of you and your family.

 

[CECannonJr]

I'm sorry to learn about the passing of your father and the way you feel right now.

I hope and trust that you will find your way - no, it will never be the same. It's okay to take time, mourn, and feel lost, and my heart aches for you as you go through this pain.

I often look at this clip from a movie (if you can get past the actor's politics), and it brings me a little comfort. I hope it helps - but more importantly, know everyone here is thinking of you and your family.

Thank-you very much.

 

[ButchA]

Great talking to you, @CECannonJr on the phone! I'm always here anytime you need to talk. Been there, done that. It's rough, believe me. Here's a sentimental YouTube video of me and my dad's old tacklebox from the 60's & 70's when we always went fishing together.

 

[Bob Lee]

I'm sorry to learn about the passing of your father and the way you feel right now.

I hope and trust that you will find your way - no, it will never be the same. It's okay to take time, mourn, and feel lost, and my heart aches for you as you go through this pain.

I often look at this clip from a movie (if you can get past the actor's politics), and it brings me a little comfort. I hope it helps - but more importantly, know everyone here is thinking of you and your family.

I could only hope I could some day be a friend like his friend is.

 

[CECannonJr]

Great talking to you, @CECannonJr on the phone! I'm always here anytime you need to talk. Been there, done that. It's rough, believe me. Here's a sentimental YouTube video of me and my dad's old tacklebox from the 60's & 70's when we always went fishing together.

It was a pleasure speaking with you today @ButchA

It's was good for me to speak to you about the pain of losing my Dad, as you are someone who knows exactly what I'm experiencing right now. Your offer to talk to me about it and then our conversation were easily among the nicest things I have ever encountered.

Hey, what else would I expect from a fellow 1911 fanatic?

 

[SCARPETTA]

I have a veterans memorial to my Dad in my front yard. It is the exact replica of the one in town.
Many families pay tribute & omage to their relatives like this.
Most of all the electrical poles & lamp posts have the memorial banners hanging from them.
I say a little prayer & talk to my Dad's spirit more now than ever.

A great tribute to my dad and all the other vets. My empathy alongside of sympathy for your Father's passing. One of the most memorable parts of Life is the end of it.

 

[BIGDAVE101]

Mom died 5 years ago, no tears.... dad died 2 years ago, no tears... we are not responsible for lots of what we get in life... but what you do with it is on us. Bitter or better is totally your choice.... choose life...

 

[awmp]

Truly sorry for your loss and a very touching story, so glad you were there with him, God Bless.

 

[Bob Lee]

Mom died 5 years ago, no tears.... dad died 2 years ago, no tears... we are not responsible for lots of what we get in life... but what you do with it is on us. Bitter or better is totally your choice.... choose life...

I did originally like this comment, but I've changed my mind. Reason being I feel it's rather unkind. I reread it again and I agree chose life, however we all face death of a loved on differently. You chose not to cry your choice. CE delt with it in his way. His reaction was his reaction. Your reaction was your reaction. I do not see it as bitter, he was very close to his dad, he misses him badly. He's human same as you. How we deal with loss is our own choice. Please don't berate his feelings.

 

[CECannonJr]

I did originally like this comment, but I've changed my mind. Reason being I feel it's rather unkind. I reread it again and I agree chose life, however we all face death of a loved on differently. You chose not to cry your choice. CE delt with it in his way. His reaction was his reaction. Your reaction was your reaction. I do not see it as bitter, he was very close to his dad, he misses him badly. He's human same as you. How we deal with loss is our own choice. Please don't berate his feelings.

I wasn't even sure what that comment meant Bob. The best I could gather from it was that he didn't care for either of his parents.

I was fortunate to have had an outstanding father. I do miss him very much. He's been gone one month today.

 

[BIGDAVE101]

I did originally like this comment, but I've changed my mind. Reason being I feel it's rather unkind. I reread it again and I agree chose life, however we all face death of a loved on differently. You chose not to cry your choice. CE delt with it in his way. His reaction was his reaction. Your reaction was your reaction. I do not see it as bitter, he was very close to his dad, he misses him badly. He's human same as you. How we deal with loss is our own choice. Please don't berate his feelings.

Did not berate any feelings, your severe judgment of me is totally ignorant and harsh.

 

[BIGDAVE101]

I wasn't even sure what that comment meant Bob. The best I could gather from it was that he didn't care for either of his parents.

I was fortunate to have had an outstanding father. I do miss him very much. He's been gone one month today.

You do not know what my comment meant, that is obvious. Your judgement was wrong and shows no insight.

 

[BIGDAVE101]

Mom died 5 years ago, no tears.... dad died 2 years ago, no tears... we are not responsible for lots of what we get in life... but what you do with it is on us. Bitter or better is totally your choice.... choose life...

 

[CECannonJr]

You do not know what my comment meant, that is obvious. Your judgement was wrong and shows no insight.

Care to elaborate? If I misunderstood, I apologize. It is difficult to understand, considering that I know nothing about you. It's nearly impossible to have insight into a comment on a public forum when it's not entirely clear.

 

[CECannonJr]

Did not berate any feelings, your severe judgment of me is totally ignorant and harsh.


You must see that it would be easy to interpret your comment exactly as Bob did.

I did not take any offense to your comment. I just considered it difficult to understand and irrelevant to my loss and moved on. I hope you have found as much peace and comfort as possible with your loss.

 

[Bob Lee]

You do not know what my comment meant, that is obvious. Your judgement was wrong and shows no insight.

Well sir it was not meant to be harsh or w/o insight. I'm sorry I offended you. It's the worst thing about online. You don't always get things in proper context, and there's no way to fix it. Bob Lee

 

[ButchA]

Guys.... Whoa, hold up, pull the reins...

The loss of a beloved parent will stay with us forever. Good, bad, indifferent, it is what it is...
You learn to deal with it as best you can and look to others to help ease the pain of the loss.

Look at my YouTube video back up in post #24. I am real, live, in the flesh. What you see if what you get. I made that video as if you were right there sitting down with me on that morning, drinking a cup of coffee with me, and I'm going over all my childhood memories of my dad's old tacklebox.

 

[CECannonJr]

Guys.... Whoa, hold up, pull the reins...

The loss of a beloved parent will stay with us forever. Good, bad, indifferent, it is what it is...
You learn to deal with it as best you can and look to others to help ease the pain of the loss.

Look at my YouTube video back up in post #24. I am real, live, in the flesh. What you see if what you get. I made that video as if you were right there sitting down with me on that morning, drinking a cup of coffee with me, and I'm going over all my childhood memories of my dad's old tacklebox.

@ButchA speaks the truth. A conversation with him went a long way in helping me understand the loss that I will live with for the rest of my life. I know through talking to him that it will get better, but it will always be there.

I'm not sure what that post was about that took this thread somewhere it shouldn't have went.

 

[Bob Lee]

@ButchA speaks the truth. A conversation with him went a long way in helping me understand the loss that I will live with for the rest of my life. I know through talking to him that it will get better, but it will always be there.

I'm not sure what that post was about that took this thread somewhere it shouldn't have went.

I truly agree.