I've always preferred DA/SA pistols as the first long trigger pull means that you have to really intend to shoot something to do so. Just like a DA revolver or DAO pistol. The follow-up shots are easier. But...
Honestly, when training with, say, the Mozambique drill (two quick pointed shots to center mass, one aimed shot to head if required) if you do it properly you won't notice the difference in trigger pull.
Slow fire, my DA/SA pistol is more accurate once I get past that first shot, as the SA requires less trigger pressure. But shooting as above, both my full-size DA/SA and my compact DAO have the same perceived trigger feel.
The only pistol I've shot that was significantly different was the German P6 my wife has; as delivered, it had a 24# trigger spring and extremely long pull. She couldn't actually fire it without two fingers on the trigger. That was the German safety protocal - long pull, heavy DA stage.
The other thing you need to look at in your worry about hammer notch and spring wear is how long a DA/SA guns stays in that condition. The whole point of the dual action is so that you don't have to carry the arm cocked in order to be ready to fire. So they are carried hammer down, with first shot being DA. Once the incident is over the gun will be decocked or empty, and returned to a safe condition to reholster. If you actually shot someone with it, CSI or the scene commander will make sure the gun is no longer in SA (they're supposed to unload, safe, and secure it as evidence). So it won't sit that way very long.